Tell me not, in mournful numbers,
Life is but an empty dream!
For the soul is dead that slumbers,
and things are not what they seem.
Life is real! Life is earnest!
And the grave is not its goal;
Dust thou art; to dust returnest,
Was not spoken of the soul.
- Henry Wadsworth Longfellow:
My bofriend/partner Scott's Dad died last night. Scott is really hurting and could use your support. He is super depressed and feeling like an orphan. His mother died of cancer years before I met him and his only sibling, his half brother, also died of cancer a couple of years ago. Scott has a newly discovered half sister who was given up for adoption and who Scott knew nothing about until she just suddenly turned up about a year ago. It's a very complicated painful story and since I had a complicated painful dental procedure and am loaded up with pain medication I don't think this is a good time for me to attempt to write about it.
All I can say is that when Scott hurts I hurt and I can't stand to see him suffering. Inherited control freak that I am I want to jump in, tell people how they should be behaving, and fix it all but all I really can do is sit here on the sidelines, be loving and respectful and let it all go by.
I'm so sad and sorry for everyone involved, in my own way I loved Scott's Father and do care about his girlfriend and Scott's sister, but like I said, it's much more complicated and sad than I can safely go into tonight. Please go by and give Scott -- your Live Journal brother -- a hug will you? Thanks so much.
Love you guys,
I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father's protection.
- Sigmund Freud
It is a wise father that knows his own child.
- William Shakespeare
We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
-Sam Keen, from To Love and Be Loved